Love. One crazy little thing that can make people do unbelievable feats. There have been people who have abandoned everything they had just for that one person, and there have been people who have embraced death because they couldn’t get that one person. That one person who defines love to them.
But the concept of staying with one person looks terribly difficult in today’s age. And I say this because I see people around me who make it look difficult . It used to comfort me when I saw guys and girls staying committed to someone. Yes there are of course people who can still do that, but there are much more people who are giving up on their relationships because it cannot work the way they want, or worse, because they think it can work better with someone else.
Of these, the latter is more dangerous, I dare say, to an institution called marriage. Yes I know it’s brave to relate a broken relationship to a marriage, other words, many might find it stupid. But come on, let’s face the music now instead of calling it hyped noise and overlooking it. The people I’m talking about are of my generation, people in the age group between 20 to 25 years of age. Many of whom would even get married sometime soon. And that is why this ambiguity of thought kind of distresses me. Yes we are young, wild and free. But how long are we going to stay this way? There might come a point say tommorow when we’ll all be responsible for raising a family and then this ambiguity might be the prime reason why we’d all be bad family men.
I have a friend who was in a relationship with a girl for over four years. They were really into each other and hoped that they would even get married soon. I always thought I could read this guy completely, but I was a little shocked when he told me that he was breaking up with this girl because there was another one with whom he thought he could do better. There were other minor reasons of course but I couldn’t consume this idea of ’thinking’ that he could do better with another girl. Yes if he was assured that he was in love and I mean the real I-can-stay-with-her-even-if-she-looks-like-a-hag -tommorow kind of love, then I could completely understand and double the idea. But that sadly wasn’t the thing. Trying to put myself in his shoes, I could see what he was saying. He was talking about hope. He hoped that he could get even better. That kind of hope is good if you are in a really bad relationship , it only worries me to see a person developing that hope when he is in a relationship where nothing is going wrong.
This can of course be argued and in fact, I can already forsee a lot of criticism coming my way. We all are young, we have an urge to explore. We want to know new people and if we find them nice, we want to stay with them. And you won’t be wrong when you’d argue with me that you have all the rights to go for the better things. Yes, that sounds legitimate. But my question is, how long? How long would you hunt for the better? Specially when you already know that you are having the best so far? I can understand it when you want a SMG-class instead of the S-class because you would not settle for anything but the best, but it’s but the same about people. And certainly not about the ones you love.
At some point we should all settle with what’s served on the platter, because when you were hungry, it served your purpose. Now when you have devoured it, you should not go for the fish on the next table just to fulfill your taste. Because if you carry that kind of hope on your mind all the time, sixty years from today, all you will have done is broken a lot of hearts and still searching for a better one to break.
I also don’t totally dismiss this idea of looking for a better person. But you know this thing called a line? Draw it somewhere in between these two things and balance. Look for those who love you, love them back ,stay with them and avoid looking around much because the world is beautiful and the chase, endless.